Learn To Say No
The week I was diagnosed with adrenal fatigue (where my adrenalin glands have been pushed beyond their capacity) I finally understood why. That same week I had said yes to organising the summer ball for my son’s school, agreed to meet a colleague of my husband to advise her on becoming a consultant, put 2 dinner parties in the diary for the same weekend and offered my services for career counselling free of charge. All good use of my time, but in tandem with being a mum of 3 and doing the day jopb, it is just too much. Coaches don’t tend to coach themselves and I had found myself in the vicious circle of over commitment – never saying ‘no’, which is an area I often work with my coaching clients to solve.
Some of the solution is in good time management. If you don't realize how full your schedule really is, you're likely to over commit. When you add up the hours for paid work, charity work, school meetings, workouts, family responsibilities, homework sessions and other obligations, you may be amazed at how little free time you actually have. So have a real hard look at how you spend your time each week.
It is also important to be clear about what matters to you. If you don't know which areas of your life are most important to you, it is easy to devote time to the wrong things. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish in these seven vital areas - health, family time, financial goals, intellectual pursuits, social time, spiritual goals and professional goals. Write these down so you can use them as a reminder; then allocate your time accordingly.
Saying no won't be easy if you're used to saying yes all the time. But learning to say no is an important part of simplifying your way to a better, less stressful life.
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